Over time, I have found and been handed many wonderful comments and truths about grief. Here are just a few of them.


CS Lewis 
We were promised sufferings. They were part of the program. We were even told, 'Blessed are they that mourn'. (source)

If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair. (source)

Go to Him when your need is desperate, when all other help is vain, and what do you find? A door slammed in your face and a sound of bolting." (A Grief Observed - source)

Mama Marie Gobran
Everyone who carries the fragrance of eternity has to experience the dark valley of death. (source)

Donald Miller
Good stories must travel through conflict. And in epic stories, the conflict must become unbearable. (source)

C. H. Spurgeon
Great hearts can only be made by great troubles. (source) 

Catherine of Aragon
None get to God but through trouble. (Drops Like Stars, 33)

Nicholas Wolterstorff
Every lament is a love song. (Lament for a Son)

Walter Brueggermann
"Mature personhood does not come by pilgrimages of continuity, but by abrasion, disruption, and discontinuity which shatter our grasp of things and make us, at key points, not the initiators but the recipients of gifts and surprises that we often do not want to receive." (Hope Within History)

Dietrich Bonhoeffer
Where God tears great gaps we should not try to fill them with human words.

We must be ready to allow ourselves to be interrupted by God.

We must learn to regard people less in the light of what they do or omit to do, and more in the light of what they suffer. (Letters and Papers from Prison)

There is nothing that can replace the absence of someone dear to us, and one should not even attempt to do so. One must simply hold out and endure it. At first that sounds very hard, but at the same time it is also a great comfort. For to the extent the emptiness truly remains unfilled one remains connected to the other person through it. It is wrong to say that God fills the emptiness. God in no way fills it but much more leaves it precisely unfilled and thus helps us preserve -- even in pain -- the authentic relationship.

Furthermore, the more beautiful and full the remembrances, the more difficult the separation. But gratitude transforms the torment of memory into silent joy. One bears what was lovely in the past not as a thorn but as a precious gift deep within, a hidden treasure of which one can always be certain. (Letters and Papers from Prison, page 176 - source)

Brennan Manning

The unwounded life bears no resemblance to the Rabbi. (The Rabbi's Heartbeat)

Dennis Ngien
In suffering we are conformed to the image of Christ. (source)

J├╝rgen Moltmann
For whatever reason, God allows mankind to be limited & vulnerable to suffering, but he had the courage to take his own medicine in Jesus. (The Crucified God)

And even in our sleep pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart, and in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God.
Last updated on December 10, 2016.